Why YELLING Doesn’t Work

Have you ever tried to communicate with someone who just wasn’t getting what you were trying to say and ended up YELLING at them in an effort to make them understand?  How did that work out for you?

Do you ever get emails and THE PERSON WHO IS EMAILING YOU IS UPSET AND WANTS TO MAKE THEIR POINT BY YELLING AT YOU IN ALL-CAPS!  I don’t know about you, but I immediately want to send a reply and ask them to take a chill pill and settle down.

In most cases, YELLING gets you no where. For sure at the youth level of sports, there is no place for YELLING at your team or individual players. When a coach goes on a negative YELLING rant it creates anxiety for his players (and anyone listening- including parents). Kids don’t learn in an anxiety ridden environment.

Kids don’t learn in an anxiety ridden environment. 

Yelling does absolutely nothing to motivate players. When was the last time you can ever recall a favorite teacher yelling at students in the classroom?  Professional receiver coach Eric Van Tassel puts it this way, “I have two rules for the players that I coach and I spell those out to them before we ever hit the field.  I tell them that the only two things that will make me upset at a player is a player who I constantly have to repeat the same coaching point to (which means he isn’t paying attention to my coaching) and a player who doesn’t give 100% effort.  However, I don’t ever scream at a kid in a negative way.  I might raise my voice in an authoritative way to get there attention but I’m doing so while making that coaching point such as, ‘you aren’t giving 100% effort.'” A coach can motivate a player to do what he wants as long as the coaching points are something that the player realizes are beneficial to the player and will make him a better player.

Please don’t confuse a strong loud voice with YELLING. If fact, many great coaches are going to elevate their voice when they are teaching players, especially out on a field where players might be 10 – 15 yards away from the coach.

The real question is this, “Do your players believe that you have their best interest?”

I think the real question is this, “Do your players believe that you have their best interest?”  That’s it, plain and simple.  If your players know you care about them and want to help them be their best, then you will have a group of young men who will want to perform for you and make you proud as a coach. However, if your players sense an inflated ego, a need for control, or other leadership dysfunction, you will lose the respect of your players.

Watch this short video clip that makes my point…

Effective coaches are great teachers.

Can you image walking into history class and all your teacher did that day was yell?

Can you picture an entire semester of that? What would you learn?

You would probably learn more about what makes that teacher tick and very little about history. Great teachers take the time to know their students and find ways of taking complicated subjects and breaking them down into bite-sized, simple to understand, nuggets.

That scene from the Blindside is a great example of this. Our new recognizing defensive coverages series is a great example of this. Coach Van Tassel takes an entire defensive formation and reduces it down to the 2-3 things quarterbacks and wide receivers need to look for to know what the coverage is.

Hope this helps and I’d love to get your feedback… just not in all CAPS, ha!

Be Great!

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